Too Busy? 7 Ways To Spend Quality Time Together

There is no denying the fact that modern life is extremely fast-paced. Despite the many gadgets and devices that purportedly offer us more time, we find that time for ourselves is actually at a premium. Gone are the days of the 9 to 5 job. Work is an ever-present part of our lives whether we like it or not. In fact, the same technology that is meant to free up our time actually allows work to intrude even more in our personal lives.

In such a scenario, maintaining relationships can be quite difficult. My cousin recently divorced her husband of six years. Both of them were working and each had a high-flying career. They only saw each other on the weekend and even those were taken up by social commitments. They frequently had to travel out of town which cut down the time they could spend together even more. My cousin realized that she really only spent time with her husband on one or two days in an entire month.

The enforced separation had predictable effects. The couple started growing apart and fights became more common. Each of them became closer to certain colleagues simply because they spent more time at work than they did at home. Eventually, the husband ended up having an affair. It was the straw that broke the camel’s back. The two came to the conclusion that their lives had taken different turns and they no longer wanted to be together.

Are there ways in which you can prevent something similar from happening to your relationship? Is it possible to salvage a relationship that is under so much stress? 

Team ShoutLo decided to look into it and we found that there are some ways in which you can spend some quality time together.

Comparing Schedules

When living lives that become crazy busy, you can compare schedules to see when both of you are free at the same time. These times should be kept exclusively for each other. It can be something as small as a quick breakfast together, but it can make a world of difference to your relationship.

Texting

Make mobile services work for you in more than just the professional arena. Simply texting to each other throughout the day can bring you closer together. The texts don’t have to be elaborate. Something as basic as ‘Thinking of you’ can brighten up both your days.

Planning Small Dates

Don’t worry if you haven’t been able to plan a proper date with each other in some time. Plan smaller dates instead. You may not be able to go out drinks and dinner, but you can get together for a cup of coffee or a fast food meal. While it isn’t the same as having a proper date, you’ll at least see each other for some time.

Rearranging Your Schedules

Think about rearranging both your schedules a bit. See if it is possible for one or both of you to switch your work hours in a way that you both finish work at the same time or even start at the same time. Sometimes even making time to watch your favorite TV series together can reinvigorate your relationship.

Leaving Notes for Each Other

This may sound a bit old fashioned but it actually keeps the romance alive. A small handwritten note that tells you or your partner how you feel about each other reminds you of how valuable the relationship is to you. Your own handwriting adds a personal touch that may be missing in a text.

Reminding Yourself That This Isn’t Permanent

Things won’t always be so hectic. This is something you need to keep reminding yourself and your partner about. What may seem overwhelming right now will soon pass. Keep nurturing your relationship and when the craziness is over, you’ll still have each other.

Treasuring What You Have

Don’t forget to live in the now. The moments you snatch may be short but both of you are there. In these situations, you need to value the time that you have rather than worrying about the time you don’t have. Make the most of it and spend time doing whatever both of you love doing together.

Relationships don’t work themselves out. You will face ups and downs and life will throw challenges your way all the time. Working at your relationship will not only ensure its survival but also improve its quality. One day you can look back at all you have been through together and see how strong both of you have become together.

What tips do you have to maintain a relationship through times when both of you are very busy? Share your experiences with us in the comments section.